Today’s blog was going to be another one in the world of the ever pregnant Workin’ Mama, but my mind was altered by watching today’s episode of The View. Today’s Hot Topic Guest was controversial author Mimi Alford who wrote of her 18-month affair with President Kennedy. In her book, “Once Upon a Secret: My Affair with President John F. Kennedy and Its Aftermath,” Alford discusses intimate details of her relationship with the President..a time before there was even a Monica Lewinsky. She was a young college student and obviously very impressionable, but her actions would put color on a lot of faces when they read the book.
Obviously expecting a real conversation but some sort of professional compassion from a group of women, Alford seemed a little taken aback at the treatment from the “Women of the View.” Barbara Walters especially seemed to go after her, making a series of comments relating to the books ability “to make a lot of money.” The only panelist that seemed to look at both sides of the issue was Joy Behar and she was in the minority. Sherri Shepherd looked as if she would rather conduct the interview from China and Whoopi rarely had any questions. This was definitely an “interrogation” that Barbara Walters was conducting.
While I am a little embarassed for Ms. Alford to reveal these intimate secrets about her past, I can not doubt that it was a cathartic experience and sometimes your spirit can not be at total peace until you have revealed the secret that has been gnawing at you. I found it very unfortunate that Barbara Walters berated the woman so viciously that she seemed to tear up at the end. Where was the un-biased journalism that Ms. Walters is known for? Where was the compassion? All of it was missing from the show today. A person on Twitter reminded me that we are in the middle of February Sweeps and perhaps this was a way to invoke drama, ratings, or a DAYTIME EMMY from today’s grandstanding performance.
Perhaps what bothers me the most about this is that it is too easy to judge others and forget the mistakes that we have made. Wasn’t it Barbara Walters that wrote a revealing tell-all that discussed her previous intimate relationships with married men of power? The question that Babs needs to ask herself…would she have wanted someone to treat her as she treated Mimi Alford or with kindness and compassion?
I am in no way agreeing with the behavior of Ms. Alford, but I think we all need to take a step back and think about how we treat one another. We have all made mistakes, and while most of us can say those mistakes weren’t with the President of the United States, they were mistakes all the same and we would not want anyone to know. She carried this secret her entire life, what a huge weight that must have been.
What secrets are you harboring? Are you brave enough to reveal them? If not, don’t be so quick to judge. After all, you never know when it’s gonna be your turn to sit at the table and have others judge you. Are you looking for judgement or compassion?