Sick of Feeling Guilty


Are you a workaholic? If you answered yes, then you probably have worked while being sick. “Oh it’s just the sniffles,” you’ve called the flu.  “A tickle in my chest,” you’ve called pneumonia. All the while, you are helping to spread germs around the office. And it doesn’t end there. More and more of us feel guilty about taking vacation time, as if the office will come to an end because we aren’t there.

Lesson: You are only hurting yourself.

I learned this lesson the hard way when I got bronchitis a few years ago. A supervisor called me (yes I answered the phone) and requested that I develop a banner for an overseas conference. Telling me that it was needed right away and if I could help it would most appreciated, I tossed my meds to the side and set to work. I worked all day long and felt worse than I had when I took the dreaded call. Turned out, the banner didn’t need to be completed that day! I worked for nothing!

The truth is that we all get sick or need a mental health day at one point, it’s just a part of life and it’s ok.

So let’s walk through this together:

Step 1 – You feel sick

Step 2 – Pick up your phone and email your supervisor and say, I am taking a sick day today.

Step 3 – Put the phone down and take care of yourself

See how easy that was?

Lesson: Don’t be fooled into thinking that working through being sick will be make you more appreciated. Take the time to take care of yourself, and be nice to your colleagues by not spreading the germs.



Lovin’ Life to Save Lives

LL2SL_flyerI love to plan parties. Every birthday, the hubby and I pull all of the money we can together to make sure that our children feel celebrated. And it usually  works, to the point that when it is our birthday, they feel that we need to have a party too.

So of course we wanted to celebrate the first anniversary of Ava’s experience.

To read more about Ava’s story, click here

Though some will want to forget the day that we lost her only to have God return her sweet spirit to us 6 minutes later,  we feel the need to be ever thankful. The way that we show our thanks to the Lord is to share with our friends and family the importance of CPR training.

Are you CPR certified? Join us!

We teamed up with the Ecclesia Community Development Corporation to develop an event that is fun and educational. With Ava in mind, we are calling the event Lovin’ Life to Save Lives. On Saturday, March 19, 2016,  we invite everyone to participate in CPR Training/Certification at Greater Ecclesia Temple in Detroit. The event, which costs $25/person, begins at 10am and lunch is provided.

If you are certified, and would like to sponsor someone else, please message me today. Our goal is to make sure that no one goes through what we went through. My hubby saved Ava’s life through brief CPR training learned by watching tv. We want you to have the real thing.

Greater Ecclesia Temple is located at 9611 Iris Street in Detroit.

Up and Away!

Our family has embarked on an important milestone….we have a crawler in our midst! At the prime age of 11-months, our little one is now crawling around the house. She can also amaze Ava and Mashed Potatoesher family by moving around in the walker. Let the days of the baby gate begin!

Upon hearing the news that our baby was crawling, I immediately teared up. How could I not? Almost a month ago, we weren’t sure what was going on, our entire world was upside down. Mystery surrounded a condition called “rickets.”

Now..up and away! I can only assume that life is going to move at warp speed since we have yet one more child to chase around the house!

Thank you God for blessing us with our little ones….even if they are moving faster than a speeding Vitamin D bullet!

Hypocalcaemia ain’t got nothing on us!

So the little one is a rock star. The nurses love her and she has shocked the doctors. She hasBeaumont Hospital surpassed every goal the doctors have set and they are ready for to leave. And my little angel couldn’t be more ready herself. She ripped out all of the cords except for her IV. She would have gotten to that to if the nurses hadn’t taped it down thoroughly.

And so we wave goodbye to Beaumont Hospital. We leave the hospital with an order to come  back for a follow-up blood test on Friday. She will have to be on a high dose of calcium for the next 8 weeks and will have to see a pediatric endocrinologist.  I can’t even imagine how costly the hospital bills are going to be, but it doesn’t matter. A sense of gratitude has washed over our entire family.

A very special thank you to those who offered a kind word or prayer for our family. All of those messages on Facebook, text messages and this blog are forever saved in our hearts. We only hope that we can be as supportive to you as you have been to us.

As we move to celebrate the Easter holiday…make sure you include Vitamin D in your plans. Vitamin DEveryone could use it!

A Diagnosis

FeetsWhen our family arrived at Beaumont Hospital, the physicians were puzzled. They weren’t sure what happened to our baby, they could only remark how beautiful she is (which you know she is totally gorgeous).

As the evening wore on, she began to exhibit some symptoms from earlier in the day. Our little sweetheart began to cry and her belly was tight. She was could not lay down flat in the crib and appeared to be in absolute pain. One by one, the doctors came in and re-told the story of how she got here over and over again until finally someone came up with an idea. Let’s do some blood work and get a scan of her belly. After this moment, everything moved very quickly.

Diagnosis: Pediatric hypocalcemia

Hypocalcemia manifests as central nervous system (CNS) irritability and poor muscular contractility. Low calcium levels decrease the threshold of excitation of neurons, causing them to have repetitive responses to a single stimulus. Because neuronal excitability occurs in sensory and motor nerves, hypocalcemia produces a wide range of peripheral and CNS effects, including paresthesias, tetany (i.e., contraction of hands, arms, feet, larynx, bronchioles), seizures, and even psychiatric changes in children.

Immediately our baby was moved to the pediatric ICU. She needed a very high dose of calcium. Calcium can burn the skin and because the high dose must be administered through the IV, they wanted to make sure she was in a safe place with her own nurse. No one really got much sleep. My husband, myself and my awesome friend La’Comba took turns watching her. It didn’t bother me much to stay awake, because I couldn’t sleep anyway. The high infusion worked and her calcium numbers increased right away. Her endocrinologist had her moved back to the regular floor where she began to receive oral calcium. Instead of crying out in pain, she has now started to focus on removing every cord and tube attached to her…the nurses are so happy with us (NOT!)

Now they that they figured out the what…on to figuring out the how. How did our perfect angel get low calcium? In looking at her, she doesn’t appear starved or deprived. The doctors concentrated on me breastfeeding. Breast milk is liquid gold, but doesn’t have the necessary Vitamin D in it. I wondered…why did this just happen to her and not my other little ones who received breast milk as well? I was told that that this does not happen to every baby and is a rare condition. A rare condition…that can be fixed. Unfortunately she has had this for a while, as Rickets disease has developed….again another condition that is reversible.

Rickets is defective mineralization or calcification of bones before epiphyseal closure in immature mammals due to deficiency or impaired metabolism of vitamin D,[1] phosphorus or calcium,[2] potentially leading to fractures and deformity.

And so, she is receiving calcium 4x a day and will continue to do so for 8 weeks after she leaves the hospital. In 8 weeks, she will be bigger, better and stronger. In addition, she will have a testimony that will she share with others.

Speaking of sharing, the doctors have encouraged us to share with everyone the importance of Vitamin D. As Midwesterners, we are lacking in sunlight. Sunlight in Michigan is only good from May 1-October 1. Outside of that time, the sun is too far away to do any good. I followed the rules with our infant and keVitamin-D_0pt her indoors during  the first three months. Since she was born in May, she could have really used that sunlight. That, plus keeping her indoors during the winter was a double whammy. In addition, African Americans are also more susceptible to this deficiency. So everyone, on behalf of our little one…get your Vitamin D!