Below are examples of my freelance writing career.
My eyes snap open and I glance at the clock. It was another day in week 17 of my pregnancy and another day to go to work, in which I was already late. As I pondered the thought of sleeping in for five more minutes, I stretched my arms for a long full body stretch. All of a sudden a sharp, throbbing pain emitted from my calf muscle, causing me to wake my husband and my neighbors with a loud shriek. I knew instantly that I had a “charley horse,” a leg pain that is common among pregnant women.
I know what you are thinking. After having morning sickness and every kind of illness that you aren’t able to treat during pregnancy, why get a charley horse? Well after having numerous dalliances with Mr. “Charley,” and enduring many days of limping around the office, I decided to break down and do some research on how to get rid of a “charley horse.” What I learned will hopefully save you from having them or at least make them go away faster.
First, let’s look at why it occurs. With pregnant women, charley horses are common because your growing baby is putting pressure in your lower body, causing your blood circulation to be a wee bit off. Being tired and not taking your vitamins helps you get more leg cramps, which is another reason why women should take their prenatal vitamins.
The following can provide some help when the evil “Mr. Charley” rears its ugly head:
Paging the ER Doctor: Take Action Now!
Try to not focus on the throbbing pain that is radiating throughout your leg. Stretch your leg and flex your foot, taking care to not point your toes upward because it makes it worse. Repeat this action until the pain lessens.
Let Your Fingers Do the Talking
Massage the affected area gently with long, firm strokes toward your foot. Complete your emergency “physical therapy” by placing a warm washcloth on your aching calf.
Make Preventative Care A Part of You
Make no mistake about it; you can’t be any good to anyone if you’re tiring your body out and not eating the proper foods that your baby needs. Take some preventative action by drinking plenty of water and eating a few bananas.
Most importantly, try to get some rest during the day, an activity that is critical for pregnant women.
Charley horses can be prevented with the proper diet and overall basic care of yourself during pregnancy. But, when those moments occur when good ole Charley peeps around the corner, arm yourself with the necessary techniques and face it head on.
After my wedding, I received a lot of comments from my friend about this whole “submit” thing. ” I heard a lot of submitting in your vows,” a friend said. “Are you comfortable with that?
Knowing that I am staunch independent person, I guess I could see why my friends were concerned. I have been known to speak my mind whether someone likes what I have to say or not. Sometimes it works in my benefit or other times it blows up in my face. That being said, I didn’t have a problem submitting in my vows to my soul mate. “Who wouldn’t submit to love,” I told them.
Submission has been a hard topic amongst married couples because women , especially in today’s time are becoming more and more independent. We women are career-minded folk with bills to pay and homes to live in. We make our dinner, clean our own houses and take out our own trash. And yet, when we marry, it is expected that we are supposed to let go our “independent” ways and become quiet and angelic and without opinion.
I view submission differently. I know that my husband is my covering. It is his job as the head of the household to lead us on the right path based upon the true wisdom of God. And trust me, I don’t want that role. That’s a lot of responsibility!
Don’t agree? Ephesians 5:22-24 (NLT) states, “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
I consider it my duty as a wife to assist my husband as a proper helpmate. And because I have a mouth and a ton of opinions, I can assure you that I assist a lot! But, my husband is not domineering and controlling (nor is Christ) and most of the time (not like Christ), listens to what I have say, even if he doesn’t want to hear it or doesn’t agree. We as a couple decided that decisions should be made together. If we don’t agree on something, it doesn’t get done until we in total harmony. And it doesn’t matter who initiates. There have been many things that I have wanted and Jason didn’t agree that it should be done and vice versa. We weigh out the deciding factors and move on from there.
The fact of the matter is that we put too much of a negative emphasis on submission. A lot of people forget that Apostle Paul also mentions that husbands are to love their wives as they love they love their own bodies. As married couples, we need to understand that is essential to submit in order for things to happen. Submission to me signals a sign of commitment and encourages communication with one another. You can’t make things happen if you aren’t committed and don’t talk to one another. “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” (Amos 3:3)
A house is not a home when peace and harmony do not reign throughout it.